Queer affirmative therapy
Therapy is often geared towards cis heterosexual people whose experiences vastly differ from those of queer people. When the norm is heterosexual, marginalized communities are often unable to find the space they need in order to talk about their problems.
While there might be overlap in the issues themselves- lack of communication, dependency, toxicity- context plays an important role in understanding our clients. Therapists at Another Light put in the extra effort in understanding our clients. Instead of a neutral stance, we actively learn about the queer community, or are a part of it, and understand how it affects your mental health.
Another Light Counselling provides therapeutic practices that affirm gender and sexuality of marginalized communities.. We understand the need for an intersectional approach to therapy- thus, we put the responsibility of marginalization on systems and contexts- such as homonegativity, transnegativity andheteronormativity- and talk about therapy within that understanding. If you are looking for a safe space, we at Another Light are here for you.
Kink Affirmative Therapy
Kink affirmative therapy entails not only a no-judgement zone but also therapists who genuinely understand identity issues and sexual practices. Another Light provides you with safe space to navigate the boundaries of your sexual experiences without the negative messaging you might have already been exposed to. We help you process and recover from the harm of this messaging while addressing all related trauma you might have.
LGBTQIA+ is only the basics of sexual diversity. Kinks are one way to explore identity and sexuality for both queer and cis-het people. It is not just about sex; kinks and kink exploration doubles as a method to combat dissociation during sex or otherwise. We at Another Light understand kink and plays and how it relates and reflects power and society. The conversation is always open and safe- allowing you to shed the "shame" society expects you to have.
BDSM as a term has evolved to include more terms and practices. The lines between abusive and consensual kinky dynamics often get blurred. At Another Light, we encourage safe and fun sexual experiences that are a part of adult life, and aim to help you understand your own soft and hard limits while fostering those experiences. Kink-informed therapists help you maintain healthy relationships and dynamics, providing you with resources and information to make your kinky play a safe and exciting experience.
The word "trauma" has been over-defined to only include Big life events that cause notable harm to a person. Often, we forget to acknowledge the Small Traumas that tend to leave a bigger impact. The sum of all Small Traumas in our lives causes more damage than the Big Traumas. It's important to acknowledge them and not dismiss them.
When a person does not have the ability or resources to deal with an overwhelming or threatening situation, use the word trauma. War, accidents, stalking, kidnapping, abuse these all fall under Big Traumas. They need as much care as Small Traumas- ranging from emotional abandonment, relationship issues, gaslighting, or just being told you're not good enough your entire life. These leave small scars that pile up and have lasting impact on how you think and function on a daily basis. The best way to heal is by working on yourself with trauma-informed therapists. Another Light is here to provide with tools, tips and tricks you require to start on your journey for mental wellness.
What does trauma comprise of
We have a fair understanding of what Big Traumas are- ranging from abuse, kidnapping, loss of a loved one, war and so on. While one should not dismiss these, tarma also comprises a lot of Small Traumas. These are the moments that tend to have a lasting impact on your personality as well as the way you interpret the world. They color your interaction with people and situations, the way you react to big and small events in your life, the way you view or navigate a conversation and so much more.
Small Traumas stem from incidents such as childhood neglect, continued gaslighting, relationship issues, attacks on your self-worth, and so many more small events that we are able to dismiss or cope with in that moment. However, as we grow, these incidents snowball to the point that they shape our entire outlook. If you need help addressing your Small Traumas - and we know you do - come to Another Light. We have trauma-informed therapists who understand how trauma works and will actively help you help yourself.
Couple therapy for queer people
The whole world is different for people who aren't heterosexual. Consequentially, therapy is different for queer people as well-ranging from the experience to the therapist's own knowledge when providing tools to deal with trauma and other issues.
On one hand, heterosexual relationships are celebrated, valid and affirmed by society as a whole. On the other, queer relationships undergo external and internal difficulties. While relationships should include just those who are actually in them, queer relationships have to weather a barrage of unwanted opinions, pressures and threats from a third party, i.e. society. They are frequently invisibilized, marginalized and discriminated against, often unknowingly in the form of microaggressions as well. Therapy itself is vastly different for cis-het couples, simply because they do not have to face continuous disapproval from family, friends and society.
As a relationship is viewed so differently, so are the internal exchanges, ranging from expressions of love, starting and maintaining relationships, and decisions to part ways. We also understand power imbalances stemming from the situation in which one partner is out and proud while the other is still in the closet. Your identity directly affects your partners and vice versa- making your relationship all the more difficult in a society where you are not considered "normal." Sometimes, the imbalance also comes from different identities and how they shape attraction- such as a bisexual partner with a trans person.
The pressures of a queer relationship are far different from a heterosexual one. At Another Light, we take into account the context and the barriers and provide queer affirmative therapy.
Poly relationships counselling
Polyamory is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the informed consent of all partners involved. There are several misconception and misinformation about polyamorous relationships.
Polyamory does not exist as a challenge to monogamy. There are plenty of other non-monogamous relationships- like open relationships and swinging. It's important to recognize what you want from the relationship as well and learn to let go when things don't align.
Polyamory is defined by your expectations of love and relationships. It requires communication, boundaries, and trust- as is true of every monogamous relationship as well. Another Light helps you and your partners understand how to be in a healthy poly relationship by stressing the need for safewords, communicating with both your partner as well as their potential partners, practicing safe sex, and dealing with the inevitable bout of negative emotions that crop up in every kind of relationship.
Handling your addiction is not as easy as "deciding to no longer do it" especially if it is a response to pain- and addictions are exactly that. Addictions act as a distraction to deal with and reduce pain. Humans will do anything to avoid feeling pain. In the end, however, it only leads to more pain and obsession.
Most people tend not to understand addiction and what it can do to you. Instead, it's dismissed as a "wrong choice" or a "bad decision" - and while it can lead to that, addiction stems from unaddressed trauma. In order to continue avoiding the core trigger, we tend to find escape in substances. Another Light is equipped with trauma-informed therapists who help you work towards breaking the addiction cycle. While we very much put the onus on the person with an addiction, we also acknowledge the responsibility that the system around them have. Stigma via these systems often don't address the pain that comes with addiction and fail to recognize people with addictions as human. Another Light takes into account the person as well as the context, in order to provide therapy that helps on your journey to wellness.